How To Be A Good Friend
- Be YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND FIRST. You must respect yourself first before you respect others.
- Be KIND. Do kind things for each other and always use kind language.
- Be FRIENDLY. Smile and ask your friends questions about their interests.
- Be HELPFUL. Always help a friend in need.
- Be a GOOD LISTENER. Look at people when they are talking to you. Pay attention to what they say.
- Have FUN with one another. Share many laughs together.
- Be SUPPORTIVE. Make positive comments. Use Put-Ups.
- Cool Down First. When angry, walk away, and talk out the problem after you have calmed down.
- Use I-Messages. Focus on the problem. For example, say “I feel mad when you call me names, please stop.” State clearly how you feel and do not bring up past hurts or conflicts.
- Take a Stand. If you see your friend is being bullied, tell the students to stop. Seek help from adults when needed.
- Include Others. If you see someone who does not have many friends, try to include them in your group. Be a leader, not a follower. Information adapted from the Secret 2011 January Campaign at www.MeanStinks.com. The tips on “How to Be a Good Friend” by MeanStinks campaign was revised and can be found at www.MeanStinks@pinterest.com.
30 Positive Statements For Girls Encourage Healthy Friendships!
Note to Readers: Girls Friendships cause much stress and anxiety for many tweens and teens. I found the middle school years to be particularly challenging for girls. Emotional bullying is everywhere and the lines of friendship are blurred by an effort to be popular or just plain old accepted! I love these positive statement put forth by Blair! Print this out and leave it on your daughters pillow… I know I am.
By Blair Wagner, CPCC, ACC
Resolution #1: I resolve to stand up for myself.
Resolution #2: I resolve to pay attention to which friends feel good to be around and which friends don’t.
Resolution #3: I resolve to walk away from situations I don’t want to be part of.
Resolution #4: I resolve to think about what I want in a friend.
Resolution #5: I resolve to smile at girls who don’t have friends.
Resolution #6: I resolve to be a Positive Active Bystander™ when I see bullying.
Resolution #7: I resolve to practice using a strong voice.
Resolution #8: I resolve to ask for friendship help from a trusted adult when I need it.
Resolution #9: I resolve to be honest with my friends.
Resolution #10: I resolve to trust my gut over what anyone else says.
Resolution #11: I resolve to stand tall.
Resolution #12: I resolve to avoid negative text messages.
Resolution #13: I resolve to do what feels right to me.
Resolution #14: I resolve to try out new friends.
Resolution #15: I resolve to say goodbye to friendships that aren’t healthy for me.
Resolution #16: I resolve to ask questions when I realize I’m making assumptions.
Resolution #17: I resolve to let go of sarcasm.
Resolution #18: I resolve to speak up instead of get revenge.
Resolution #19: I resolve to say how I feel.
Resolution #20: I resolve to respect myself as much as I respect my friends.
Resolution #21: I resolve to look for friends who treat others kindly.
Resolution #22: I resolve to ignore negative gestures.
Resolution #23: I resolve to stick with friends I can trust.
Resolution #24: I resolve to be open to making lots of friends.
Resolution #25: I resolve to avoid gossip and rumors.
Resolution #26: I resolve to stay away from friends who manipulate and use relational aggression.
Resolution #27: I resolve to keep others’ secrets private.
Resolution #28: I resolve to talk to girls who are being given the silent treatment.
Resolution #29: I resolve to never say, “Just kidding.”
Resolution #30: I resolve to be myself.
© 2011 A Way Through, LLC