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What is OST?  On second thought means having given something more thought; having reconsidered something or after having thought about something again. To rethink a situation or issue after the fact.  OST is the basis of the Bloom Trail’s Positive Intervention Room. It is a place to rethink, reconsider, process and give more thought to your behaviors.    To think about (something) again, especially with a view to changing one's tactics or opinions, the act or an instance of thinking again. In a crisis or problem situations, most of us respond in immediate terms. We tend not to take time to look at the larger picture, or ways that would work the best giving all things considered. We respond or act in knee-jerk fashion. Someone says something insulting to you, you immediately say something that will counter their insult, regardless of your surroundings (i.e., in a classroom, court room, etc)  But, if you had time to re-think (process) the insult, and assess your surroundings, your response could be more thoughtful and minimize the affect the insult had on you (i.e., Being sent to the dean’s office or the court judge finding you guilty).  Many decisions and reactions are made in moments of anger. Because anger can be powerful, managing it is sometimes challenging. It takes plenty of self-awareness and self-control to manage angry feelings.   

What is self-awareness? It is your ability to notice what you are feeling and thinking, and why. High school students should have the ability to be self-aware. When you get angry, you should know that your mood and responses are going to be different than when you are not angry. You should be aware of “what pushes your buttons”. No matter what pushes your buttons, one thing is certain-everybody gets angry at times Anger is a normal emotion, and there’s nothing wrong with feeling mad. What matters is how we handle it (and ourselves) when we are mad. 

List four things about yourself when you are angry. 

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What is Self-Control?  Self-control is all about thinking before you act.  You should know how you act when you are angry or mad and if you know that, it should guide you in better controlling yourself in stressful situations. To at least shape your behavior, which in turn should minimize the negative consequences of being out of control?

 List four things about yourself when you feel out of control. 

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    Together, your self-awareness and self-control allows you to have more choices about how to act when you’re feeling an intense emotion like anger.  On second thought is based on you having time to look a problem in a retrospective (looking back) manner. Getting away from the problem allows you to be less emotional and react with less than thoughtless knee jerk responses. You may hear a person say after a fight at school, “…oh, I wasn’t thinking, or “…I don’t know what happened, I just went off when he said that about my momma”. OST simply can mean giving you time to re-think alternative responses that can reduce negative consequences and increase more positive resolutions to any given problem.          

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