"As the cool stream gushed over one hand she spelled into the other the word water, first slowly, then rapidly. I stood still, my whole attention fixed upon the motions of her fingers. Suddenly I felt a misty consciousness as of something forgotten--a thrill of returning thought; and somehow the mystery of language was revealed to me. I knew then that "w-a-t-e-r" meant the wonderful cool something that was flowing over my hand. That living word awakened my soul, gave it light, hope, joy, set it free! There were barriers still, it is true, but barriers that could in time be swept away…" ~Helen Keller
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” –Victor Frankl
I AM NOT MY ADDICTION!
“Addiction is not the entirety of me. I am me; I am not just my addiction.
There is a lot of other stuff to love.” — Ryan Sachse
Our behavior will convince them more than our words. ~Page 83 AA Big Book
ABC's: Acceptance ⇒ Belief ⇒ Change
3 A's in AA: Affection ⇒ Attention ⇒ Appreciation
4 A's: Attention ⇒ Awareness ⇒ Acceptance ⇒ Action
When we pay Attention, we can become Aware and that makes Acceptance possible for us which can lead us into taking positive appropriate Actions.
2 B's: Breathe & Believe
Breathing deeply brings a sense of well-being which makes it easier to Believe that everything will turn out for the best.
Breathe in God and Breathe out Peace.
3 C's: Cause, Control & Cure
4 C's: Cause, Control, Cure & Contribute
We must accept that we did not Cause others to be as they are, we certainly can not Control their behavior nor can we Cure them of their malady, but we can contribute our experience, strength and hope for our good and theirs.
6 C's: Cause, Control, Cure, Courage, Compassion & Community
4 D's of Relapse Prevention - Beat Cravings!
Delay ⇒ De-Stress ⇒ Distract ⇒ Decatastrophize (Do Not Panic)
5 E's: Empathy, Evaluation, Education, Encouragement, & Engagement
All of these are geared towards enabling and motivating the patient to take charge of his or own care.
4 G's: Good, Glitches, Gratitude & Goals
Do good things everyday and don't get found out; See glitches in your daily life as opportunities for growth; Write a Gratitude List: Be grateful for everything that happens in your life - both good, bad and disastrous - remember, Triumph and Disaster: Treat these two Impostors just the same; Write your goals on paper for each day, week, month and year - writing your goals is a necessary first step in making them come true.
4 P's: Protection, Power, Pride, & Punishment
These are illusions which we sometimes focus upon and use on others.
6 P's : Prior Planning Positively Prevents Poor Performance
The 3 R's of Recovery: Recognize ⇒ Reconcile ⇒ Resolve
The 4 R's of Recovery https://www.theactivetimes.com/4-rs-recovery
Repair ⇒ Refuel ⇒ Rehydrate ⇒ Revitalize
Recovery's 12 R's https://www.promises.com/blog/the-12-rs-of-recovery/
Recognize ⇒ Remember ⇒ Realize ⇒ Register ⇒ Remove ⇒ ReApply
⇒ Rearrange ⇒ Renounce ⇒ Remain ⇒ Relish ⇒ Renew ⇒ Rejoice
ACTION = Any Change Toward Improving One's Nature
AWOL = A Way Of Life (or) Abstinence With Out Love
PROGRAM = People Relying on God Relaying a Message
OUR = Openly Using Recovery
PACE = Positive Attitudes Change Everything
BIG BOOK = Believing In God Beats Our Old Knowledge
EGO = Easing (Edging) God Out
FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real
DENIAL = Don't Even Notice I Am Lying
WILLING = When I Live Life, I Need God
HOPE = Helping Other People Everyday
HUGS = Hope Unity Gratitude Serenity (or) Have U Greeted Spirit
KISS = Keep It Serenely Simple
FAITH = Fantastic Adventure In Trusting Him
FINE = Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional
TIME = Things I Must Earn
GIFT = God Is Forever There
HIT = Hang In There
ISM = Incredible Short Memory (or) Internal Spiritual Malady (or) I Sabotage Myself (or) I Sponsor Myself
NUTS = Not Using The Steps
HALT T = Hungry - Angry - Lonely - Tired - Thirsty
MAGIC = Motivation - Acceptance - Gamble - Inspiration - Commitment
STOP = Serenity Takes Our Participation (or) Serenity Today, Our Program
(or) Show The Other People (or) Serenity Takes Our Pain (Panic)
(or) Serenity Takes Our Problems (or) Stop Taking Others Problems
(or) Stupidity Trys Our Patience (or) Sanity Takes Our Planning
(or) Stress Thinking On Positivity
PPTS = People, Places, Things and Situations
PAIN = Perceive, Acceptance Is Now
Recovery Insights from the King James Bible
Matthew 6:9-13 “After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.”
1 Corinthians 10:13 “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”
2 Timothy 1:7 - For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
Psalms 34:4 - I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.
Philippians 4:6 - Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
1 Corinthians 16:14 - Let all your things be done with charity.
John 15:13 - Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
Psalms 31:24 - Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all ye that hope in the LORD.
Romans 15:13 - Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that ye may abound in hope, through the power of the Holy Ghost.
Isaiah 40:31 - But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
Beware Cognitive Distortions
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking.”
“Man is not suffering by external forces as much as his own dysfunctional mind and self inflicted negative stimulus.” ― Aditya Ajmera
“Remember, what you "feel" and what is "real" are often very different.” ― Eddie Capparucci, LPC
“Your mind can destroy your life! Mind your mind; think well! Detoxify your thought and be free!” ― Ernest Agyemang Yeboah
“Mind what you mind. Do not just open the door of your mind to anything at all you don’t want to mind. Mind the things that get closer to your mind and mind your mind!” ― Ernest Agyemang Yeboah