What exactly is bullying?
An individual is being bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more individuals.
|Bullying implies an imbalance in power & strength.|
Four types of bullying
Physical - physically hurting another individual (Direct bullying)
Verbal - saying mean or demeaning comments to a person’s face (Direct Bullying)
Emotional/Social - isolation/exclusion, gossiping/rumor spreading, saying mean or demeaning comments about another person, etc. (Indirect bullying)
Cyber - bullying someone with the use of technology (i.e. e-mail, text messages, chat rooms, internet, telephone, etc.) (Indirect bullying)
Warning signs of being bullied:
* Comes home from school with torn or dirty clothing, damaged books
* Has cuts, bruises, scratches
* Has few, if any, friends to play with
* Seems afraid to go to school, complains of headaches, stomach pains, etc.
* Doesn’t sleep well, has bad dreams
* Loses interest in school work
* Seems sad, depressed or moody
* Is anxious, has poor self-esteem
* Is quiet, sensitive, passive
If your child shows several of these warning signs, it’s possible he/she is being bullied. Talk with your child to find out what’s going on & schedule a conference with school staff to discuss your concerns.
What you can do:
* Help your child develop talents & positive attributes
* Encourage your child to make contact with friendly student(s) in their classes
* Encourage your child to get to know peers in new situations
What doesn’t work:
* Ignoring the problem
* Blaming your child for provoking bullying
* Telling the child to “hit back”
Warning signs of bullying others:
* Teases, threatens, kicks other children
* Is hot-tempered, impulsive, has a hard time following rules
* Is aggressive toward adults
* Is tough, shows no sympathy toward children who are bullied
* Has been involved in other antisocial activities such as vandalism or stealing
If your child shows several of these warning signs, it’s possible that he/she is bullying one or more children. Take some extra time talking with your child about his/her behavior & set up an appointment with school staff to discuss concerns.
What you can do:
* Communicate directly with your child:
- We know you have been involved in bullying
- Bullying is a serious behavior
- We will not tolerate any future bullying behavior