Learn to handle the anger of your children
Anger is a natural human emotion and can be beneficial.
We must first start by saying that anger is as natural an emotion as happiness and sadness. And well managed it can be an impulse to achieve a goal or to defend what we believe / want.
It is important that our children can feel angry when something happens; However, it is necessary that we provide them with tools so that this emotion does not exceed the limits that harm them or cause them to verbally or physically hurt others.
10 Questions and Affirmations to Help You Manage Your Anger
1. Do you want me to help you?
Ask him if he needs help solving what is making him feel angry. That way you will feel that you are independent to make your own decisions.
2. I can tell you are angry
Letting them know that you can tell that they are angry because of their attitude or actions will allow them to see how they act when they are upset. In addition, this can help you to channel your emotions and not get carried away by the anger that you feel in the moment.
3. I understand that you are angry
It may be that he is very angry about something that does not matter to you or that is not really that serious. However, it is very important that you feel supported and loved. And above all that you feel that your emotions are always valid. You can make him remember about something that he likes a lot, like what's my age, your next birthday is about to come, etc.
4. I would like to try "this"
If your child is very frustrated and does not understand reasons or solutions. You can put into practice some strategies to reassure him, these will depend on the personality of your child and what you have on hand.
5. What if we start over?
If something he's working on goes wrong, remind him that everything in life can be done again. New opportunities always allow us to do things better than the previous time.
6. We will solve it later
It is very likely that you cannot reason with your child when angry, so it is better to wait until he is calm or you are to talk about what happened.
7. Not correct
It is very important to set limits, so that you do not get used to acting on impulse to the extent of physically or emotionally hurting others. Let him know that everything has consequences and that it is better to learn to calm down and then act.
8. Do you remember the last time this happened, we did "this"?
It can help you to know that it is not the end of the world, even if it feels like that. Remind him of how other problems have been solved, he may even have already been upset about the same or something similar. You can make him remember those days when the same thing had happened and how he had handled it.
9. I will always be there when you need me
It is very important that you remind your children that you will be there for them always, that they know and feel that they can count on you no matter how bad what happens. Feeling supported is an excellent foundation for self-confidence that will be reflected even in adulthood.
10. I love you so much
It is vital that our children know they are loved, so regardless of whether they go through an anger crisis, always keep in mind how much we love them.
When our children are angry, our reaction as parents is vital in laying the foundation for their handling of emotions. It is necessary to be very objective and react as little as possible, always reminding them how loved they are.